5 WAYS TO RECOGNISE YOUR SHADOW
1.Projection Tracking: Seeing in others what you can't see (or won't accept) in yourself.
2.Disproportionate Reactions: When your emotional response is way bigger than the situation warrants.
3.Patterns You Repeat: the same loops showing up again and again in your relationships, work, or life.
4.Childhood Wounds: the moments you learned what parts of yourself weren't safe to express.
5.Emotional Inquiry: the practice of tracking what you're feeling and where you feel it in your body.
THE FOUR HUNTING TOOLS
1.Sweetness: Honour the pattern. Remember, it once kept you alive. Approach with gratitude instead of judgment.
2.Cunning: Learn to spot subtle signals in your body.
3.Patience: Create a pause between trigger and reaction. Stay with discomfort.
4.Ruthlessness: Take a decisive, radically different action that interrupts the pattern.
THE THREE QUESTIONS
1.What's the BENEFIT of this shadow? Safety, approval, control, avoiding rejection or conflict
2.What's the COST of hiding it? Exhaustion, resentment, disconnection, repeating patterns, energy drain
3.What's your LONGING? Aliveness, freedom, authenticity, power, connection, peace